I am still new to the whole gay/lesbian world. I have come out about 90% to my family members (including extended) since early this year, and with all the great feelings that come with that I have also recently encountered the stereotypes from “straight people”. I have begun experiencing bad looks, stares, and negative feedback while in public with Queen, and it really bothers me a lot sometimes. I love Queen and I’d never even consider leaving her because of those negatives, but it does get me thinking.
The other day I posted on my Facebook wall a link to a quiz I took about “what type of relationship couple are you”, or something to that extent, and Queen and I got Michelle & Barack Obama. A friend who I made since moving to Mass commented on that post to ask if I was Michelle. That was an experience for me. It really bothers me but I haven’t said anything to this friend about it directly. I just replied “idk it doesn’t matter”. I heard nothing back from them after that. I talked to Queen about it and she said it wasn’t a big deal, but it is to me! I think that type of comment is so ignorant and offensive . But actually, the craziest thing about that comment is I was that person before. Before I starting dating women someone could say I was ignorant to certain stereotypes.
I know that there will be many more times to come when I will feel negatively judged due to my sexuality. I need to find new ways to cope with different situations. Any advice?!? Please leave a comment.